Claim Your Own Space and Leave Other’s Reaction As Theirs

Happy Friday! That’s right, it’s Friday! Aloha Friday! I didn’t write a blog last week, did I? Wow… I must have been so absorbed with the new job. I took a new full time job, so all my attention and energy have been for that. I’m glad that I can write a blog tonight since that means I have some space in me. Today, I’m going to write about what I experienced this week. Hence, the topic is “Claiming Your Own Space and Leave Other’s Reaction As Theirs!”

Some of you might not know but I teach Zumba. Someone asked me if I sleep at all when I told her that I took a new job, teach Zumba and I have my healing business. Anywho, what I want to share today took place at the gym scene when I went to teach Zumba. I have a Zumba and lunch friend from the days before I became a Zumba instructor. So, she would tell me something others might not tell me. Anyway, last week, she mentioned that the instructor before my Zumba class leaves the studio so late. Basically, we have 15 minutes inbetween each classe, so the transitions and preparations would go as smooth as possible. I was noticing that the instructor before my class ends the class late and leaves the room close to my class time. The friend mentioned that I should tell her to leave sooner.

Here I am, so called healer who can easily see what people might be struggling with or what people can benefit from shifting about. When it comes to my own matter, of course, it’s challenging. I don’t like conflicts. I tend to curve my way in to make things work instead of coming to the mutual point with others. You know what I mean? Well, in certain situations, when it comes to working with males in the tech field, that flips to the totally opposite ends. So, I do know my tendencies. I’m really nice, too nice to females. I get a little competitive with males.

So, of course, when my friend mentioned about the instructor not evacuating sooner, I was like, “ah.. I don’t think that matters.” Though, the fact was that every week for that specific class, I had to rush to prepare, clear the room, set up the room for my Zumba class. So, basically I’ve been curving my space to make it up for someone invading my space so to speak.

I wasn’t going to say anything this week therefore. However, my life circumstance has changed since I took the full time job. I don’t have as much “space” in my life any more. So, any extra space I was giving out to others started to push me too much. When I entered the studio this week, it was several minutes to my class time. I was like, are you kidding me? I need to check if I could hook up iphone or not today…

While I was preparing, the instructor was still slowly talking with the student from her class, not even wrapping up or anything. Then, I opened my mouth. Maybe the conversation with my friend last week brought this to the surface while it was unconsciously curving my space in my life. I said, “Hey, xyz, do you think you can end your class five minutes earlier?” I was expecting easy conversation or agreements. It turned out something totally different.

She pushed back. So, I took my stance to remind her that her class is supposed to end xyz time. I told her that I needed to prepare for my class, need to set up, clear the room as people’s energy are dumped in the room. I also mentioned that I got a complaint from a student in my class last week, so it was affecting the class. I told her that in fact it affects me since I have to rush to prepare and if not, I have a very challenging class as a result.

As I expected her to respond in the conversational manner, the next things happened. She started to run gathering her tools, kept saying, “I’ll leave by xyz from now on!” and kept running like a mad house. I was calling her name and even holding her arm to say that she didn’t have to rush out now. I was apologizing for offending her and making her mad. She kept saying, “I”m not mad,” and running like a mad house. Then, she stormed out of the studio. Anyway, there was more than that, but this gives you a pretty good picture.

Ended up, I didn’t have time to clear the energy of the studio, I had a hard time shaking her energy from my head during the class, but I carried my class till the end as positive and normal as possible.

When I ended the class, I was going to give this instructor a call and apologize. Before I attempted to do that, I was asked by one lady from my class what had happened as she witnessed that I was chasing the instructor and she was PISSED OFF. So, I explained to her the situation and I was telling her that I was thinking about calling. Then, this lady said, “you know?” then stopped saying anything. I continued her sentence instead. “You mean I should leave it as is?” She responded, “Yeah.” “I mean the last I saw, you were running after her down the stairs, the little one. That’s enough.” I was like, “You’re right. I did all I could do. I wasn’t rude. I was asking. I was asking a simple, reasonable claim. I tried to fix it and I can’t fix other’s feelings.”

What I realized then and afterwards while I was having lunch with my friend after the class was this. I claimed my space to others who were taking over my space, invading my space. I stood up and claimed to get my space back. The reactions others have on that, it’s not my problem; it’s their problem. I was trying to fix their emotions and reactions per my action and claim, and that can’t be done. I did my part for myself. The rest is up to others. It’s not my game.

As much as I hate conflicts and negative outcomes, I decided to leave as is and I was going to do my normal thing: meditate, ground the incident happened, and heal the communication space and situation with her and me.

When I went back to my car, I saw a voicemail. It was from her, the instructor. She was apologizing for her taking it personally, reacting badly and leaving. I called her back, we talked and ended the call with a good note as much as we could at that point. I was relieved that I didn’t have to carry this kind of matter every week as I do bump into this instructor every week.

Long story as usual, but what I wanted to share with you was this. Claiming your space, claiming your boundaries are very important action for you. It might not be easy, but it affects everything in your life including totally different areas. It is so because boundaries and claiming your space are about taking care of yourself, standing up for yourself, and owning your space. It’s communal in all areas of your life.

Also, the other important part is that other’s reaction to your actions and your will is not your problem. You can’t fix other’s problems including their feelings. You do your thing, others need to do their thing. Your job is to take care of you. Others need to take care of their matters as well.

I wanted to share this because I know many people are probably not good at claiming their own space and also try to fix other’s reactions if they ever speak up. You can’t do anything about other’s feeling. That’s theirs. That belongs to them. Whatever you do, whatever you say, it’s all up to others how they perceive it. Some might take it as neutral, some would react like a mad house, or some may blame themselves. Whatever they do, that’s their gig to take care of. You do your for your sake. The end. Hope it makes sense to you guys.

With that, have a wonderful weekend! 🙂

Allow the Universe to Bring Your Manifestation, Let Go of Your Control

A Happy New Year! May the new year 2018 bring you joy, unconditional love, amusement and abundance in all areas of your life!

I hope you had a wonderful holidays! 2018 is a very different energy than the past 2017 for sure. The scale is bigger, the energy and urge to shift all the vibration is bigger, everything is a bigger scale! That’s as far as I could see, sense, hear the energy of 2018 so far. As I started out my new 2018 really fast and fast changing, I wanted to summarize what I’ve learnt, observed, and experienced through the course of the stream in my life. To start the amazing new year, I want to share the message around abundance and manifestation. Hence, the topic is “Allow the Universe to Bring Your Manifestation, Let Go of Your Control!”

You might have noticed that my recent blog posts have been a lot about abundance and the law of attraction. That’s because that’s the area I started to work on more and more. I might have mentioned before but I had zero interest in the topic of the law of attraction or abundance genre even after I started my spiritual work for a while. Maybe it was a huge programming in me. Maybe it was a little too hard for me to take in. Or maybe simply I had more urgent needs to focus on which has been and always has been my super sensitivity to energy.

Whatever it was, I started to take a look probably after I left my last corporate job, so maybe around 2016 the earliest. Still, it’s only very recently I started to grasp the concept of manifestation, the law of attraction, the law of allowing, and abundance. My teacher offered an abundance program; that was a really nice class. I liked it so much because I didn’t have to deal with so much coarse energy in the classroom from people unlike other programs. Anywho, this is the area of course, many people spend thousands of dollars on workshops as far as I know. Ahhh… maybe that’s why I had zero interest because I’m a little odd individual. I’m an Aquarius, a Rebel.

A couple of days ago, I had a healing session with someone who has a very bad cold. Unlike when you’re very little, when you are sick, you still have many things you are obligated by. You have your work, so you have to go to work or run your business. Or maybe you’re in collage and you can’t skip so many classes or you’ll be so behind (well, that’s at least what you think in your head). The best thing for you when you’re ill or sick is to rest. But, life sometimes doesn’t allow you to rest well. I totally understand it because I often have to go through work, whatever the “work” is for me, under the physical illness. It’s very challenging for your body because the body is super weak and super sensitive when you’re sick.

When I was working on the energy system of this healee, I could tell that the third chakra which is one’s power center was seriously rock tight. It’s like holding onto something really tight to control. When you’re slipping from the rope you were using to climb the cliff, you probably will try to grab the rope really tight and control the sliding down to fall even though the speed of sliding is no way near your hands and your grip can overcome. That’s the metaphoric representation of “control.”

When things are out of control, let’s say you’re sick or your project is going fast downhill, or whatever it is, your tendency is trying to “control” the situation, so you can bring the balance and “control” the situation back. The fact is when you really tune into it, nothing you’re trying to control is your game. You have no control over on whatever you’re trying to control. It’s a different story if you’re controlling your muscle to lift something, but that’s sort of built in natural mechanism. You shouldn’t have to “control” by force as you might be doing when things are intense.

When you’re in the “control” mode, your manifestation would never visit you. I can guarantee on that. You are very much human; You have physical body. Your brain is an organ, a physical body. Have you seen or been to anywhere in nature where the earth is exposed? Like the Grand Canyon in the US. Have you stand in front of the humongous canyon on your two feet, not flying by a sesna and seeing it from it? The energy and the scale are nothing comparison to what one human can do honestly. The earth is holding everything together with such precise force and positions. Do you know what the earth is capable of? Then, imagine what the universe is capable of, the scale of the universe is like. The universe has beyond the energy of the earth obviously.

When we talk about manifestation, the law of attraction, the law of allowing, we’re talking about the energy, the force, the vibration of the Source energy of the universe. It’s not the force energy of a human, a body, or a brain. What we experience everyday, no matter how you perceive it, everything is working in the great synchronicity. It’s not you as a human body is making it work. Human body is not that powerful. You’re bounded to the physical body and the capacity of the physicality can do is very limited. You have only certain amount you can hold or lift although that can be increased by training. Still, there is always a limitation. The Source energy, the universe, the vibrational vortex, have no limit. Do you see the difference?

When you want certain outcome and things what you see are very different from what you wish to happen, there is one thing you need to do: Let go of your control. You can’t control it, so stop wasting and using up your energy which you need to keep it to heal yourself or to feel good. If things are not supposed to work for you, no matter what you do, it won’t work for you. You might think you are making it work, but rather you probably put yourself in the ditch by interfering what the universe has the greater plans for you. When you use your physical body, your brain, all you can spit out is from the small brains of humans can do. There is a limitation. Let go of the limitation if you want the greater things to manifest in your life and in you.

Rather allow the energy of the earth, the energy of the universe, the energy of the Source to flow in you, through you. What you are not capable physically can only happen when you let go of your physicality and allow the Source energy to do the work for you. See the difference? It’s not me who is healing you or giving you the information by readings. It’s the Source energy coming through me and working on you. If you’re not allowing the Source energy to flow in, no matter how huge, how miraculous the energy is, you’re not allowing your manifestation to happen. You rather stick with your small physicality. It’s not me or my healings/readings which varies, rather it’s the recipient’s receptiveness. Let go of your control and allow the Source to flow. The universe has a bigger vision than your small vision.

I’m writing this in the beginning of the new year 2018 by wishing you to be connected to the Source energy for your manifestation. The message for you in 2018 is to let go of your physicality and control, and to allow the universe to do the work for your manifestation.

With that, have an amazing weekend and the 2018!

Celebrate Your Completion

Happy Holidays! For some of you, Happy New Year already! New year is still hours ahead in Seattle and I’m sort of grateful about it. Anywho, now I’m coming back to more like myself, I want to end the year by writing about celebrating completion of 2017!

Earlier I was listening to the Abraham Hick’s audio which I had for a few years and had never listened to it. As I listened, it reminded me that all we need to do is to shift our focus to relief.  It doesn’t have to be a gigantic joy or positive vibration if it’s hard to get there yet. You can keep shifting by emotional relief. So, I wanted to end the year with ease and positive note. Celebrating the completion of 2017 would be a good way to go.

Lot of times, I feel like nothing has changed, nothing has accomplished as I was hoping for. Though, that’s only what my brain spits out. So, instead of listening to my brain, I’ll go with my vibrational being and celebrate this year ending.

I did so many things if I shift my focus really. I have been teaching Zumba for one year. Thinking back, that was impossible, I mean teaching a group exercise class. Although I’m somewhat extrovert and can talk to any strangers without much thoughts to it, I’m really shy and sensitive. So, placing myself in the position of getting attention from people and all sorts of energy is something I decided to give up years ago. Still, this matter of trying the group exercise instructor keeps bubbling up and I came to the point where either I do it by jumping off from the cliff or never try it because of so much obvious fear. I can’t believe this used to be a big “no no” subject in my world and can’t believe I’ve been doing it. So, I want to celebrate for me letting go of the blockages and objections from my bodily self and allowing the possibility of letting out who I may be.

Maybe that’s what flowing the downstream is. It’s not necessarily easy in my bodily terms, but the river has a strong current and you just have to let the oars go, so your boat turns to the downstream. It might have riffle and rocks. Still, it’s downstream. It takes less effort than rowing your boat upstream.

With that journey, I let go of two of my regular classes this year which made my energy so much happier. That also took me some time and courage since I can’t tell if it’s giving up or letting go the oars sometimes. With that, I welcomed one class I was subbing so much which ended my constant subbing which was becoming a drag. I want to celebrate I made my Zumba classes work for me but not for the gym or people.

I also want to celebrate that my courage of ending a relationship with someone I had some sort of relationship with. It was really hard for a while, but I’m so grateful that I did it because I know how horribly hard it was everyday with his energy coming into my space. Sometimes, we have so much in our heads. All the messages and rational mixed up. It can be a past life matter, can be a emotional matter, can be empath matter, can be a healer matter, etc. etc. I just let go of the oars. I want to celebrate that.

I also decided to discontinue my journey of assisting my healing teacher’s clairvoyant class. I so value what I’ve learnt and how it has been helping me in my soul’s journey. Though, it came to the point where my energy output wasn’t balanced with energy input. I was doing a lot more than I want to anticipate for energetically and on top of that, I had to pay tuition for it. If the energetic balance was different by say, maybe I get paid by doing it or I gained more new learning by doing it, then I probably might have continued. But, as is, I called it off. It was a hard call since it’s almost like turning my back to the spiritual teacher. Though, the teacher should never be put in the pedestal. As much as I love and I’m grateful always, my spiritual journey doesn’t depend on how, where and with whom. I don’t know which ways I’m heading, but I’m walking on my pathway. I want to celebrate that.

I took a couple of temporary jobs which was not in my picture at all since my focus has been my spiritual work and healing business. Though, I want to celebrate that I took that huge resistance out of me by doing something else on the side. It’s still working in progress what works and what not, but when I first took a term job, everything was flowing seamlessly. My healing practice was busier, my Zumba gigs were blossoming and more fun, and the term job was rather effortless. So, even though I don’t know what, when, and how it works like that, I want to celebrate that I took some risk and possibilities so I could experience such ease, flow and clarity.

I didn’t plan on it but my old Nissan broke down on me one night after my Zumba gig and now I’m driving a brand new Subaru. I totally didn’t plan this or didn’t see how this can happen, but it happened anyway. So, I’m grateful for that and want to celebrate that.

Before I end this year, I made one clear decision around my healing work. I no longer will offer healings/readings on one of my friends. I haven’t told her yet since she hasn’t asked my service, but I came to the conclusion that I no longer want to do that beyond my policy. I have a pretty decent policy of not doing a healing on my friends or family. My family matter sometimes happens since my mom has Alzheimer’s and it’s getting more severe. Still, I don’t offer healings on my sister or my mom unless I get a solid “go for it.” I had one friend I have been making an exception since I’ve known her for a couple of decades. I decided to cross out that waver and bring my policy back in place. No more healing on her from me. I’m going to refer my teacher for her as my teacher fully agreed and respect what I was saying.

Healings or readings can’t be done well when you’re not neutral. When you have a close relationship with someone, it’s impossible to be neutral. The reason beings is that you have so much different pathways of energy entrance to your system with your close people. Even if you set up tools, the energy, beings, cords, programming, limits, etc. enters into your space wherever the pathways they can enter from. So, I came to the point where my friend’s energy and beings are too invasive to my space. It’s not the matter of telling her to keep those things in check because she just doesn’t know how. So, I’m letting go the oars on this, too so I can welcome other people. I’m celebrating on that decision I made.

You can do the same thing, too you know? Instead of listing up what you didn’t accomplish and need to list up for the next year’s resolution, you can list up what you can celebrate for the past year! That definitely leaves you in a positive note. That’s all you need: leaving you in the positive notes so you’ll be in more receptive mode. The law of attraction follows then.

Didn’t you have a wonderful year this year? I know you did. So let’s celebrate your completion and carry on to the next year!

Have a Happy New Year with unconditional love, gratitude, joy, amusement, permission to receive, permission to have and abundance in all areas of your life! 😀