Claim Your Own Space and Leave Other’s Reaction As Theirs

Happy Friday! That’s right, it’s Friday! Aloha Friday! I didn’t write a blog last week, did I? Wow… I must have been so absorbed with the new job. I took a new full time job, so all my attention and energy have been for that. I’m glad that I can write a blog tonight since that means I have some space in me. Today, I’m going to write about what I experienced this week. Hence, the topic is “Claiming Your Own Space and Leave Other’s Reaction As Theirs!”

Some of you might not know but I teach Zumba. Someone asked me if I sleep at all when I told her that I took a new job, teach Zumba and I have my healing business. Anywho, what I want to share today took place at the gym scene when I went to teach Zumba. I have a Zumba and lunch friend from the days before I became a Zumba instructor. So, she would tell me something others might not tell me. Anyway, last week, she mentioned that the instructor before my Zumba class leaves the studio so late. Basically, we have 15 minutes inbetween each classe, so the transitions and preparations would go as smooth as possible. I was noticing that the instructor before my class ends the class late and leaves the room close to my class time. The friend mentioned that I should tell her to leave sooner.

Here I am, so called healer who can easily see what people might be struggling with or what people can benefit from shifting about. When it comes to my own matter, of course, it’s challenging. I don’t like conflicts. I tend to curve my way in to make things work instead of coming to the mutual point with others. You know what I mean? Well, in certain situations, when it comes to working with males in the tech field, that flips to the totally opposite ends. So, I do know my tendencies. I’m really nice, too nice to females. I get a little competitive with males.

So, of course, when my friend mentioned about the instructor not evacuating sooner, I was like, “ah.. I don’t think that matters.” Though, the fact was that every week for that specific class, I had to rush to prepare, clear the room, set up the room for my Zumba class. So, basically I’ve been curving my space to make it up for someone invading my space so to speak.

I wasn’t going to say anything this week therefore. However, my life circumstance has changed since I took the full time job. I don’t have as much “space” in my life any more. So, any extra space I was giving out to others started to push me too much. When I entered the studio this week, it was several minutes to my class time. I was like, are you kidding me? I need to check if I could hook up iphone or not today…

While I was preparing, the instructor was still slowly talking with the student from her class, not even wrapping up or anything. Then, I opened my mouth. Maybe the conversation with my friend last week brought this to the surface while it was unconsciously curving my space in my life. I said, “Hey, xyz, do you think you can end your class five minutes earlier?” I was expecting easy conversation or agreements. It turned out something totally different.

She pushed back. So, I took my stance to remind her that her class is supposed to end xyz time. I told her that I needed to prepare for my class, need to set up, clear the room as people’s energy are dumped in the room. I also mentioned that I got a complaint from a student in my class last week, so it was affecting the class. I told her that in fact it affects me since I have to rush to prepare and if not, I have a very challenging class as a result.

As I expected her to respond in the conversational manner, the next things happened. She started to run gathering her tools, kept saying, “I’ll leave by xyz from now on!” and kept running like a mad house. I was calling her name and even holding her arm to say that she didn’t have to rush out now. I was apologizing for offending her and making her mad. She kept saying, “I”m not mad,” and running like a mad house. Then, she stormed out of the studio. Anyway, there was more than that, but this gives you a pretty good picture.

Ended up, I didn’t have time to clear the energy of the studio, I had a hard time shaking her energy from my head during the class, but I carried my class till the end as positive and normal as possible.

When I ended the class, I was going to give this instructor a call and apologize. Before I attempted to do that, I was asked by one lady from my class what had happened as she witnessed that I was chasing the instructor and she was PISSED OFF. So, I explained to her the situation and I was telling her that I was thinking about calling. Then, this lady said, “you know?” then stopped saying anything. I continued her sentence instead. “You mean I should leave it as is?” She responded, “Yeah.” “I mean the last I saw, you were running after her down the stairs, the little one. That’s enough.” I was like, “You’re right. I did all I could do. I wasn’t rude. I was asking. I was asking a simple, reasonable claim. I tried to fix it and I can’t fix other’s feelings.”

What I realized then and afterwards while I was having lunch with my friend after the class was this. I claimed my space to others who were taking over my space, invading my space. I stood up and claimed to get my space back. The reactions others have on that, it’s not my problem; it’s their problem. I was trying to fix their emotions and reactions per my action and claim, and that can’t be done. I did my part for myself. The rest is up to others. It’s not my game.

As much as I hate conflicts and negative outcomes, I decided to leave as is and I was going to do my normal thing: meditate, ground the incident happened, and heal the communication space and situation with her and me.

When I went back to my car, I saw a voicemail. It was from her, the instructor. She was apologizing for her taking it personally, reacting badly and leaving. I called her back, we talked and ended the call with a good note as much as we could at that point. I was relieved that I didn’t have to carry this kind of matter every week as I do bump into this instructor every week.

Long story as usual, but what I wanted to share with you was this. Claiming your space, claiming your boundaries are very important action for you. It might not be easy, but it affects everything in your life including totally different areas. It is so because boundaries and claiming your space are about taking care of yourself, standing up for yourself, and owning your space. It’s communal in all areas of your life.

Also, the other important part is that other’s reaction to your actions and your will is not your problem. You can’t fix other’s problems including their feelings. You do your thing, others need to do their thing. Your job is to take care of you. Others need to take care of their matters as well.

I wanted to share this because I know many people are probably not good at claiming their own space and also try to fix other’s reactions if they ever speak up. You can’t do anything about other’s feeling. That’s theirs. That belongs to them. Whatever you do, whatever you say, it’s all up to others how they perceive it. Some might take it as neutral, some would react like a mad house, or some may blame themselves. Whatever they do, that’s their gig to take care of. You do your for your sake. The end. Hope it makes sense to you guys.

With that, have a wonderful weekend! πŸ™‚

Is It In Present Time? Or Is It In Past Time?

Happy Friday! Yes, another Friday! I’m so grateful it’s Friday, though. Mainly because I don’t have the side job on Friday. Also, I get to work on my spiritual work on myself and my healing/spiritual practice. Teaching Zumba in the evening is super cool! I do enjoy my morning classes, too. Though, the evening classes have a lot different energy and people for sure. I can really workout in the evening. Well, I’ll take it back. I can really workout in all of my classes because that’s what I do by teaching Zumba! Today, I’ll share about the sudden change in the same space and same environment I’m experiencing. Hence, the topic is “Is It In Present Time? Or Is It In Past Time?”

I have mentioned that I took a short term job. One day I looked up on Craigslist and saw the posting. Then, for some reason, I knew that job was for me. I think I grabbed it as soon as they posted it or something. It was fast. I saw a job before I headed down to my healer friend’s home for the appointment. In next minute, I was calling them already. Then, I was called to come in for an interview that afternoon. Luckily, my friend lived in the direction of that job. So, I arranged to meet them after my appointment with my friend. They ran a quick test, then interviewed me and I was hired that day and started to do the training and worked from the next day on. It was that fast. Really a downstream is something like this for sure.

It was a very short term project and I was told it would run between 4-6 weeks. Although a part of me was thinking that it was totally not my kind of work environment, something was right about it. I didn’t have to take the job home at all which was so new to me. Everything else including my Zumba gig and healing work were running rather smoothly. So, I knew it was the right place for me at that point. Anyway, the project ended on Wednesday evening.

While I was on the project, the HR person asked if I would like to stay after the project. I wasn’t sure, but decided to ask my options. The option was there to keep working, but the pay rate would be cut to low, the normal rate they pay for the employees. That was very discouraging because it was really low compared to what the project rate was. Anyway, as I have a tendency to have an idealistic view about work and I’m learning to change that view a little bit, I decided to keep the option open and told them that I would stay. So, I started to shift my work there from the project work to the regular work, which might not seem to be too different except the pay rate. I thought I was doing the right thing for me at a moment.

On Wednesday night when the project ended and majority of the short term hire left the work, I was in the training for the new, regular project work. Then, from the top, I had a very energetically rough experience. I won’t get into the details because I can’t really disclose what was about due to the agreement with the work. But, let’s say, I started to have one of my episode during the training. I could feel that the gate is opening up and I could feel, sense, hear, see what had happened in the past. Well, I’ll be a little more clearer. It was a training around a criminal justice system and it was related to a real case scenario. I could sense the deceased, and their strong emotions and pains. I had to request to take me off from the project and put me in the different project.

See, people don’t understand if they don’t know what I go through. People may view that I’m weak. I’m actually not a weak person. I’m super sensitive. That’s a very different thing. I’m not willing to deal with a murder scene and the deceased souls wanting to communicate their unfinished business when I’m not open to it. Besides, if it happened in the middle of my practice, that’s one thing, but this is a job environment. That’s a very different story.

That incident put me in the very ungrounded state that night. No matter how I set up the tools and ground myself, I was a little off. when I was on the different project, it was rough. I was getting all sorts of negative responses in the projects. Though, knowing that there must be something I can learn and gain from it, I was clearing up any negatives surfacing in myself all night that night. It got finally lighter when it was a half an hour till the end that night.

The very next day, I was put in the another project, so I was in the training again. There were several people in the training as well. There, again a very strange and negative things started to happen. There was a young kid who seemed to have some learning disability. That kid was making the training session slow because of whatever he’s got. That’s actually fine with me to be honest. I’m not really an impatient person unless it’s a personal attack to me or something. The thing which was more nerve whacking for me was that the trainer was very harsh to the kid. It wasn’t just him, but other trainer/supervisor was also harsh to him. Maybe this kid has history of something they know but I don’t know. Whatever it was, I was rather disturbed by their treatment to this kid.

Then, every time this kid screwed up something, the lady sitting next to me would literally whisper “OH MY GOD” and held her head. As I was trying to focus on the training, it was rather challenging because I haven’t worked in such environment where people seemed to be rather impatient or shallow minded. Maybe they have a good reason, like having a very stressful time in life, etc. Still, the negatives and dark energy in the training room was unbearable. I was clearing up the space and my third chakra all along and even after the training.

Also, the project itself was getting very rough on me. I was getting so much negatives from the project and I couldn’t really gain my expanded self in my third chakra all night long. When I finished the work and visited my favorite Trader Joe, I finally started to function like my normal self. Still, I was in the slight shock. My entire energy system was in trauma response almost.

When I came back home and did some email responses, my energy and my body started to come back to normal. My head started to work like my normal self. Then, I started to wonder what just had happened. The very next day today, I started to look for a different options of the side jobs. I applied for a very odd job I saw online. As I applied for the job and emailing my friend and my healing teacher about it, I had a clear picture more and more that my side job is no longer a “downstream” path for me at this point.

For the last few weeks, the very same space and environment was a clear downstream for me. In split second, the very same space has changed to the whole different energy and environment. It’s subtle, very invisible except the pay cut, but very obviously negative. As a sensitive person, this is too much to have in my life.

I thought I was learning the different way of working and clearing any residual lower vibration energy from the past corporate job. I thought it was a downstream move. Though, the same space, environment and people can shift to the totally different thing in the split second. I experienced it so visibly and I can’t still grasp the depth and mystery of the invisible realm in this universe.

The lady who sat to my next in the training was actually a beautiful, kind, empath lady when I sat next to her during the last short term project. It was a night and day. Sure, she might have some heavy stuff in life right now. But the change was so drastic that I couldn’t really believe what was happening in my eyes in front of me.

Ok, so all I have described above isn’t intended to say anything badly about the side job I took or a person. I wanted to share how things can change in a split second even if they’re about same people, same place, and same environment.

What I want to say is that we live in the ever changing universe. Everything is changing and we’re also changing every second. We can’t see visibly like a cup is melting in front of you or anything, but everything is changing in every second. So, whatever was working for you, whatever was applicable to you yesterday or five minutes ago can be no longer working on you. It’s all about present time and past time.

When your learning is done, there is nothing left for you to learn in the environment or from those people. Then, the same space, place, people can be no longer the same relation to you. You’ve done your work there. It’s time to move on. You cleared the karma, i.e., unfinished business or you’ve learned things you needed to learn from the person or environment. Then, you leave or the person leave out of your life. That’s how it goes.

When you look at your life, I would like to encourage you to check and see if things are in present time for you or past time. It was a perfect job. Sure, how about in present time? The job was horrible. Sure, how about in present time? Always check in if your environment and surrounding are in present time for you. Everything should be updated to assist your life’s journey, rather your soul’s journey.

With that, have a wonderful weekend! πŸ™‚


House and Living Space Clearing – My Version

Happy Thursday! It felt a season change this morning in Seattle. I would normally take off to my morning Zumba gigs without sweatshirt on, but today even sweatshirt wasn’t warm enough! Oh no! We got sun back in the afternoon, so it’s warm now, though. I think 8/24 is probably not a “summer” day on calendar. Anywho, I saw a lady whom I did house clearing two weeks ago and I asked how her house was like since then. It was sort of fascinating, so I’ll share it here.

More than a month ago, I asked a lady at the gym if she would be interested in my house healing or healing in general. The reason I asked her was, as sensitive as I am, something wasn’t quite right with her for a while. We know each other for a while, maybe about a year or so. She is a wonderful lady. Anyway, at that point, she told me that she was very interested in my healings; however, there was something going on, so she would like a rain check. So, I agreed.

Two weeks ago, she showed up to the class out of blue. I hadn’t seen her for a while. Then, she asked me if I had time to do the house healing that afternoon. I agreed. The interesting thing about my healing practice is that nothing really gets too crowded, meaning when things need to come first, the other things tend to subside to the later. My healing requests have been always like that. I don’t know how it happens, maybe because I do ground everything everyday. Either way, it is great since when I think of it, I just opened up that afternoon because I felt like I needed to open up the afternoon.

Fast forward, I visited the house, a very beautiful, European tone of architecture. I quickly walked around and skimmed through each room and space including yard and garden. I marked down in my head what needs to be taken care of for sure that day. The major thing I decided to work on that day was to clear out the energy from her neighbors. As soon as I walked into the living room, I felt like someone is staring at me. I could tell it was a female, older, Caucasian, with a body, meaning “alive.” I didn’t like it. It creeps me out if someone is watching me in my own house honestly although I’m sure that’s not how house owner thinks or feels. I’m sure she was uncomfortable living there, though.

Another thing I wanted to do was that there was something underneath the kitchen floor. Sure, underneath the kitchen floor had water leakage, so it was visibly a problem. I was more fixed in the energy and entity underneath the kitchen floor. I can’t fix the kitchen floor, but I can fix the energy and beings issue.

I told her that first I would give her a quick healing and then I would start doing the healings on the house. As soon as I finished the healing on her, I told her to rest. She fell a sleep immediately, so I started to work on the house.

First, I started with the neighbors’ energy coming in. I stepped outside to the yard and stared at the yard for a while. Yep. An older lady across the yard keeps coming into her property. Maybe not physically but energetically she is always invading. She’s got this strange energy, almost like she doesn’t like this house owner to live there. It makes me think of back in the day, maybe it was very uncomfortable for some ethnic groups to live in a certain areas. That kind of vibes. The owner of the house, the lady I was giving a healing is a really nice lady. Quiet, very spiritual, kind, creative, etc., etc., so there isn’t much reason to be “hated” that much from what I could tell.

I started to clear up the energy from the yard. I still felt the neighbor’s energy coming into the property. So, here is the thing. If it’s energy, I can remove pretty quickly most of the time. If the energy has a “being” attached to it, or some strong intent attach to it, I have to work on it. So, now I had to work on this neighboring older female energy. By spirit-to-spirit I told this neighbor’s spirit that it was not ok to come in to the property energetically. If she had something she needed, she needed to come around physically to knock the front door. Otherwise, energetic intrusion isn’t ok.

Still, this neighbor’s energy coming in was unchanged. Ok, Naomi is a little bit pissed now. Naomi likes to be a peaceful treaty, but if the other party is so nasty, I have to go to the next step. Then, I did what I had to do. I have an advance tool which I rarely use. I only use when beings have no chance of evolving. Or if the energy is too nasty, I do use it to show the energy what I could do. So, I did show the neighbor’s spirit what I can do if she wouldn’t leave this house and the owner alone. That, she took it. She immediately backed off. She was no longer in the backyard, not in the living room. Great! Took me for a while but one big mission accomplished.

The next was the other neighbor’s energy coming in to the upstairs room. So, I did spirt-to-sprit conversation. I think this one listened without my weapon. It felt much better. No more headache. I was thinking.. what’s up with these people?? I mean I understand living in the small landscape can be challenging sometime, but it’s not like in Japan where you can touch your neighbor’s wall, you know?

After I secured the energetic boundaries for the house and separated the energy from neighbors’, I started to work on the kitchen floor. That was something but it wasn’t as challenging as the neighbor. I removed dark, heavy energy, removed beings, and filled the space with love and light, neutral cosmic energy. Done deal.Β Then, I cleared up each room one by one. That’s it. That’s what I did for the house healing on this lady’s house two weeks ago.

According to her, yes there is a “mother” of the son who lives across the yard. She also said that she noticed this mother watching at her house sometimes. Ok, sure enough. I asked the house owner how she felt after I finished healings. She felt good and said felt “private.” Ok, my mission accomplished.

Fast forward again, two weeks later yesterday, I saw this lady again. I asked how her house was. She’s never received healings before, so I’m sure it’s not crisp to state what the difference is. Though, she did say that she hadn’t seen the “mother” across the yard ever since. She was wondering what happened to her. I was like, wow…. I know I’m a pretty good healer, but that’s a wow.

Even though she didn’t say too much about before and after differences, by looking at her was a validation enough for me. She looked really good. Although her kitchen floor problem is still needing a fix, she looked completely peaceful. I was very glad to see her like that. I’m so grateful that I could contribute to her wellness.

Anywho, long story long as usual, I thought I would share this, so you have some ideas of what I do for house and living space clearing. It all depends on what need to be taken care of in each space. I tackle from the big issues to the smaller since it’s time bound. Of course, you can keep digging if you want to, like you can clean your house forever, but that’s not necessary, right?

So, if you’re interested in my house and living space clearing, give me a buzz! I would be happy to work on it for you. We can talk what you’re looking for and I can give you general information. This can be done for an office or businesses, too.

With that, have a wonderful Friday and a super cool weekend! πŸ™‚